Care Planning

Self-Compassion - Care for the Caregiver

Perhaps you have had people tell you “Look after yourself or you will burn-out” and you aren’t even sure what that would look like.  An important way to start is with self-compassion.  A decade ago, Dr. Kristen Neff did ground breaking research into the concept of self-compassion and has now written a book, created a training program and produced a variety of support materials.  In her words, “With self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and care we’d give to a good friend.”

Join Jodie McDonald, a consultant with Family Caregivers of BC and an integrative body psychotherapist, in this webinar on self-compassion.  Learn what it is, what it is not, and how you can develop it.  Self-compassion is an essential skill to have when you’re facing the challenges of caregiving. Self-compassion includes the ability to notice that you’re struggling – to see and hear yourself – and to feel tenderness for yourself in difficult moments. It’s the willingness to say to yourself, “I’m having a hard time right now.  How can I offer myself comfort and care?”  Many of us judge ourselves and hold ourselves to impossible standards.  Self-compassion includes being able to show yourself kindness and understanding when you make a mistake or fail, and to connect these imperfections to being part of the human experience.  When we can honour and accept our humanness, we have more resilience during times of change, and those inevitable hard days that come with caregiving.

Tune in to find out how self-compassionate you are and how you can turn the caring and compassion you feel for others towards yourself when you need it most.

  1. Jodie McDonald is a consultant with FCBC in addition to being the executive director of the Cowichan Family Caregivers Support Society, an instructor at Vancouver Island University and an integrative body psychotherapist in private practice. Over the past 20 years, Jodie has worked in crisis intervention, family support, mental health and community development in a variety of roles and programs. Jodie is a dedicated and passionate educator and connector, matching big picture thinking and planning to the needs of individual people.

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  1. I have an easy time wishing all caregivers support,kindness and all the compassion they deserve in their on going endless journey,i feel for them tremendously,but for myself i have a very hard time to feel compassion towards myself when i screw up especially,it’s something that i tell myself i should know better at my age ,my experience,i am hard on myself,but i find that gives me resilience for harder times to come,if i think of myself i find i will break down and i might not get back up,so i don’t think that way,though i have the utmost compassion for people and friends
    and would do anything to help,i can’t feel for myself in that way being the person i am taking care of is worse off ,i feel blessed that i am able to help,i am still new at this caregiving and have not really had anytime to think of myself that way,but for others i really do.

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